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Freedom of choice and speech

In Hawaii there is a big battle going on right now over same-sex marriage.  I think it is fine for both sides to intelligently put their point of view out there.  That's what the United States stands by is freedom of speech.  We are all suppose to be equal, no matter what.

It seems to me we have become a society that no longer allows people to speak what they feel without things becoming nasty and filled with hate.  I have had to change my radio station because of the hate talk and the ignorance being spoken.  I don't want to drive my kids to school and here "idiot" and "retard" the whole way.

I am a Christian!  I do not believe it is my place to say who can be married and who can't.  I can only control what I do (and that's job in and of its self).  I hear other christian's points of views and I respect them for it.  If hate and anger were taken out, I believe both sides could resolve this.

What really opened my eyes to why all couples need some sort of legal footing, was a story I read on CNN.  It was about a same-sex couple that were together for quite a while.  One of the men fell in an accident at work, he was immediately rushed to the hospital.  When his partner arrived to see him at the hospital he was close to death.  This was the time for this couple that loved each other just as much as I love my husband to say their final words.  They were robbed of this.  The parents; being next of kin because this couple could never legally obtain rights, did not allow the couple to see each other.  The man was barred from his partners room.  He never got to say goodbye, they never got to have that final touch.  A man died without the comfort from the one he loved.  Don't we all as human beings have the right to love who we want?  I have lost many people of recent years and never got to say goodbye, have that final touch of the skin.  It hurts to know this couple could have had that, and they were deprived of it.  The man in the story died, his partner was not even allowed to attend his services.  A tragic accident was made even worse.  The story of this couple hurt my soul.

My grandfather was a pastor, I can remember him over and over preaching how we are not to judge others.  I can't judge who anyone loves, just like I wouldn't want someone judging who I love or whom I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with.  If a church doesn't want to marry a couple they should have that right, certain churches already refuse marriage of couples based on religious beliefs and if they have attended certain classes etc.  How would this be any different?

I have seen hate from both sides and it's sad.  The Christians as well as the same-sex couples I know are filled with love and compassion and would not speak the hatred I have heard.  Hate and anger can be so over powering that you begin to only see the negative in these people.  We are forgetting what this is about, equality for all and freedom of speech for all.

November challenge:

I am grateful for my church family that always taught love.  I have been blessed to have been surrounded by many loving people throughout my life.

1 Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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Laundry, Laundry, Laundry.....

I had planned today to not only get tons of laundry washed but to actually get all the clothes that have been washed folded/hung up and put away (in the proper locations).

FAIL!!!! I failed at not only washing clothes but got none folded nor put away.  Why can't I get this done?  It's so overwhelming.  With a family our size I have to do 3-4 loads a day (sometimes more) to keep up and have no dirty clothes.  It's just not happening.  I thought being a stay at home mom I would have this mastered.  Nope.... The more I plan to get done around the house the less I get done.  Hmmmmm maybe that's what I need to do; relax, take some deep breaths and be a little easy on myself.  I can't be the only mom out there with mounds of laundry that seems to never go away!  Am I?

One of my goals in writing a blog was so that I could give a glimpse of my stress, conflicts and strains.  I want to share with others when I have great successes, and those times when I fall flat on my face. No ones life is perfect, we all face ups and downs, they just look differently.  Often times in social networking or in groups of friends you only see the rosie side of things.  Many want to keep their struggles and burdens to themselves.  I think it helps when you see someone else has that same thing or something similar in their life.

One of the many hills I'm trying to get over is housework, especially laundry.  I was gonna take a picture of my laundry mound (pile would be an understatement) but I didn't want to scare anyone ;).

I plan to say something I'm grateful for every time I write during the month of November.  Today on this first day of November I am grateful for my sweet husband for having patience with me.  I know I'm always running around in chaos with a million things going on and a billion things going on in my head and through it all he is extremely patient.

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Until next time....

Debbie

Happy Halloween!

As I sit here in my very quiet house, which is rare.... I am reflecting on the day I've had and the day we've had as a family.

It was a hugely busy day, getting everyone where they needed to be and YES I went to therapy today.  We aren't a family big on buying expensive costumes, we kinda just throw things together and everyone seems quite happy.  We eat dinner, the kids do a little trick-or-treating and for the past couple years they have been walking to the end of our street and going to the church for a Harvest festival.  Lots of games, treats and fun food.  I grew up attending Kahului Baptist Church, every year we would have our Harvest party; so much fun so many great memories.  My kids always attended this event at KBC until we moved from the island of Maui to the island of Oahu.  I'm glad in small ways they can still experience similar things to my childhood.

My sweet husband had to work late and didn't make it home in time to see the cute little trick-or-treaters stop by the house or to see our littlest one so excited to dress up and carry her pumpkin around.  It's such a humbling thought how much he does for us and how much he sacrifices for our happiness.  I'm so blessed to have this opportunity to be with the kids on a daily basis and be able to get them where they need to be (we are so busy with so many different activities).  His hard work is also blessing me with the gift of actually having the time to be able to come to grips and face the things I have been through.

Halloween came and went very peacefully in our home this year.  I'm sitting here in the quiet feeling blessed for all I have.  What a wonderful way to welcome November with a attitude of gratitude.

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